Etiquette

Words, Words, Words

How to Be a Hepburn in a Hilton World
Book Review: Chapter Two

how-to-be-a-hepburnWords, Words, Words: It’s very important that we’re aware of the words we use to express ourselves. Like Jordan Christy said, “People are constantly making assumptions about our character based on our daily tête-à-têtes, our uncensored musings, and our friendly chit-chat.”

Anyone can overhear a conversation or read a Facebook comment. Those words will almost always affect someone’s perception of you and your character. Being perceived positively can have a huge impact on the people around you. When you’re a bright shiny light, others will see you as inspiration and will want to be shiny lights too. Positivity can be just as contagious as negativity.

So, choose your words wisely and remember that swear words aren’t classy. If you regularly use the F-word as a verb, adverb, adjective, and noun (yes, it’s a very versatile word), then you’ve probably given lot of different people the impression that you’re insolent and crude. I don’t know about you, but I definitely don’t want those two words to describe me.

I also wouldn’t want to be thought of as ignorant. Would you? I didn’t think so. That’s why it’s so important to fully understand the words we use in our everyday conversations.

One word that I hear misused a lot is “literally.” It makes me giggle inside when someone tells me, “I literally jumped ten feet” or “I literally flew down the 405.” I just imagine silly cartoon versions of them doing those things. Two other things that make me shake my head (and I know I’m not alone in this) are when I hear someone say, “supposebly” instead of “supposedly” or write “there” when they mean “they’re” or “their.” Mistakes happen, but when it happens a lot it can make others check out of the conversation (no matter how important the subject is).

It’s not just the inappropriate or misused words that can make us sound unintelligent. It’s the slang and filler words too (the likes, whatevers, and umms). Every generation has their slang terms and they’re often nearly impossible to avoid. I mean… it’s hard not to say, “cool” and “yeah” every now and again. With that being said… there are a plethora of slang terms that are a bit ridiculous for everyday conversation and should be avoided. #Snatched

Follow Jordan’s advice and avoid the “Stupid Girl” persona by developing a vocabulary that extends past layman’s terms. Get educated so you have more to talk about than celebrity gossip, TV shows, and what’s happening on Facebook.

If you need to change your persona and increase your knowledge… start small.

Three Things to Try this Week

1.) Replace swearwords with less offensive words like dangit or shoot.

2.) Get a word of the day calendar or screen saver and try using the word in a sentence that day.

3.) Replace one TV show with a documentary or the news. Watching TEDTalks online or on Netflix is a fantastic place to start and there are many interesting topics to choose from.

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Keep Your Chin Up

How to Be a Hepburn in a Hilton World
Book Review: Chapter One

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Keep Your Chin Up and Your Skirt Down: Jordan Christy starts this chapter by saying, “Self respect is one of the greatest assets a girl can possess, and yet it’s one of the biggest things we’re lacking these days” and I couldn’t agree more.

I mean, let’s take a look at our Facebook and Instagram pages for a second. How many photos and comments would you have to hide or remove if you knew your parents, boss, or pastor had access to your account? Even if your answer’s one… that’s not good. Sure, you can hide the pictures you don’t want certain people to see, but why post them in the first place?

Many of us have had crazy nights of drinking too much, wearing short skirts, and dancing on tables. Speaking from experience… I think it’s safe to assume that the first words spoken the next morning were, “I. Am. Never. Drinking. Again!” I also think it’s fairly safe to assume that those pictures are on Facebook racking up comments and likes… mainly from guys who love that you’re a “fun girl” and I’ll be the first to admit that it feels good, but judging your self-worth by other people’s opinions or how many social media likes is not good. It’s actually a sign that you’ve lost your self respect. You are so much better than that! Learn the art of living with style, class, and grace… the impact it’ll have on your life will be incredible.

If you need to rebuild your reputation and regain your self respect … start small.

Three Things to Try this Week

1.) Remove the plethora of “selfies” you posted on Instagram and clean up your Facebook page by removing those inappropriate photos, offensive posts, and negative statuses.

2.) Wear your little black dress, but add a pair of black sheer pantyhose.

3.) Stay sober by asking your bartender for a Shirley Temple in a Martini glass instead of a Cosmopolitan… your friends won’t know the difference and you won’t feel left out.

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How to Be a Hepburn

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One of my favorite books is called How to Be a Hepburn in a Hilton World: The Art of Living with Style, Class, and Grace.

On the very first page of her book, Jordan Christy makes a perfect point. She says, “Our current female landscape is embarrassing, flippant, and shallow. We need to start representing a new type of It Girl – a successful, stylish, smart girl who still maintains classic ideals and values.”

She is so right! In my time as a stylist I found that I could put new clothes on a person and they could look like a classy well-put-together female, but at the end of the day it’s only a shell… a shell that can be cracked with negative behaviors.

With that being said… I thought we could read the book together. We’ll follow Jordan Christy’s book which you can buy on Amazon for less than $12. Think of it kind of like your textbook and each month we’ll cover a new chapter. So, pick up the book and get ready because this is going to be good!

Chapters

1: Keep Your Chin Up and Your Skirt Down
2: Words, Words, Words
3: Use Some Elbow Grease
4: Choose Your Friends Wisely
5: Let Him Come Calling
6: Dress to Impress
7: Less is More
8: Have Your Cake and Eat It Too

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