So, you’re probably wondering what happened to all of the old blog posts. Well, I took them down. Don’t worry… I’m not ending the blog. I’m just making some changes so I can get this blog back to what it was really meant to be. You see, it’s supposed to be a place where I can help people by encouraging them to build their self-esteem, carry themselves graciously, find their personal style, and wear it with dignity.
I failed because I ended up making it about myself.
I got wrapped up in being great instead of doing good. I was trying to keep up with the bloggers I found inspiring and forgot to be inspiring on my own. I made the mistake of looking at other bloggers as a measure of my success, but it’s like Teddy Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy” and I lost my joy.
Fashion bloggers seem to have an endless supply of new clothes and fancy products that their followers (including me) wish they had. It’s a business of envy. They’re famous because people want what they have and I was no different… I became envious. I don’t make enough money to buy the amount of luxury pieces it takes to post pictures of brand new outfits multiple times a week. So, I started to feel discontent and I secretly became ashamed of some of my favorite outfits because they weren’t high end. The outfits I was posting were based on brand names instead of favorites which meant that I wasn’t representing my true self on blog anymore and I felt like a fraud.
Envy is no good. I don’t want anyone to see my posts and be envious of who I am or what I have. Instead, I want people to see the joy I have in being the best version of myself and be inspired to be the best version of themselves. Ernest Hemingway once said, “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self” and I believe that wholeheartedly, but somehow I lost my way.
So, today I’m starting over and I’m making some changes.
I love Kate Spade and Ted Baker, but I also love Target and Old Navy. Truth be told… I have a silly graphic sweatshirt from Walmart that I’ve worn twice this week. So, from now on you’re going to see my favorite outfits no matter what brands they are. As a matter of fact, I won’t even be posting brand names of the pieces I’m wearing anymore. I’ll still link to the item if it’s available to buy online, but I’ll also link to similar pieces at different price points. That way you can get the look based on what fits your budget best.
I’m even going one step further… I’ve made the decision to cut the tags off of all of my clothes. I know this might seem a little extreme, but I’m not going to let the brand or size label have power over me anymore and this is the only way I know how to do that. This is something that I need to do for myself and as silly as it sounds… it’s a hard thing to do. Which, I guess, is how I know it’s a problem.
So, here’s to learning from our mistakes, getting fresh starts, and being the best versions of ourselves… HAPPY NEW YEAR!